Therapeutic insight for self-healers. Part 3

There are nine characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and one of them is;

A sense of entitlement. The narcissist’s correct spills over into their other characteristics, the beliefs they think are superior to those around them. It’s a therapeutic insight to be conscious of that.

Their arrogance, they are proud of who they are and how they treat others to meet their needs. They exploit others to meet their needs with a lack of empathy to care.

The greatness they think is better than those around them. A requirement that the narcissist deserves special attention, they want admiration through love or fear and the preoccupation with their strength and success, regardless of whom they hurt along the way.

They believe they have entitled to anything and everything they want. Narcissist thinks they deserve special treatment and privileges. That sense of entitlement is often the reason why they get angry when they feel they should wait.

They will use silent treatment, rant, and provoke others if they feel their right has been criticized. They expect the people around them to abide by their demands.

Narcissists are hypocritical because they feel they should do what they want, but those around them should do what the narcissist says and not as they do.

Even the best people have their limits.(Therapeutic insight)

Those who are good, kind, generous, loyal, loving people have their limitations. We are human beings, after all.

When people tear you down, push all your buttons, use all your insecurities and weaknesses against you, send you into a state of anxiety and depression, most people react, trying to release all the stress, heartache, pain, and emotions.

However, it only makes us feel worse because we feel guilty, guilty, and more lost in who we really are.

Definition of Reactive Abuse.

Reactive abuse occurs when someone who has been assaulted, plays games, or has been controlled, physically or psychologically, responds to their abuser, stands up for themselves, either by yelling, hitting, spitting, throwing things, or insulting the throw words.

That’s all the abuser needs to put the blame on whoever he provoked. From their reactions, the real victims often think they are guilty. The narcissist will only tell their side of the story to others in the smear campaign, the one in which you looked terrible, what you did to them, what you said to them.

They won’t tell people what was the lead up to what happened. It’s just further manipulation for the narcissist to play the victim again for those around them and make you feel like you’re wrong and you have to apologize.

Abusers like the reactive abuse because, in their minds, it’s proof that the person who responded is unstable and crazy, that the person who replied is mentally ill.

They will use it against you for years. Narcissistic people rewrite their own history. They change the stories they tell themselves. Moreover, they are never responsible. They mean so many lies that they often believe their own lies and reality, and they will use reactive abuse against you for years to come.

Lies are incredibly effective.

Most healthy people try not to lie in the first place. If they do, the guilt they feel will make them admit it, or if healthy people don’t and get caught, they’ll apologize for it, learn from it and not do it again. So if a narcissist lies and often continues to do so with lies that you wouldn’t even think were a lie, like ‘I love you.

And the more they repeat this, the more you believe this, even if their actions don’t match their words, often like most narcissists, be it a boss, a parent, a friend, whoever they may be in your life. You find yourself with some idealization.

Or they will intermittently offer idealization games, so when they say “I love you.” Or “I love your work ethic.” You believe they do. Then when they turn to you so cruel and cold, and you begin to awaken from the lies, and your instincts scream at you, they come back to you with the same, and the more your mind begins to believe those constant lies, rather than their deeds and the truth.

How Narcissists Play the Blame Game?

A narcissistic projection is a mix of their manipulative Gaslighting and their manipulative Blame-shifting. While they do everything they can to distract you from the truth while doing their best to cover the fact with twisted lies while hiding the reality of their toxic, hurtful, negative behavior from you.

At the same time, they make you doubt and blame yourself and take responsibility for your selfish actions. They make you defend yourself in front of them for how you think you feel because of their hurtful ways, so they escape accountability, so the toxic person stays in control, and so they get away with their actions over and over, as you slowly sink and forget under their trance.

Psychological projection is a defense mechanism used by a narcissist to defend their own ego against their own negative qualities, denying the existence of their own inner flaws and placing them on others.

It’s a way of denying theirs and our reality.

It is a way of denying something they have done and shifting the blame for their behavior, thoughts, or feelings onto others.

They may project thoughts, flaws, emotions, characteristics, actions, and feelings that they don’t like in themselves.

Projection is the narcissistic manipulation method of controlling the image.

The realities they want others to see lead us to lose our minds. This often causes Cognitive Dissonance because we live in two different realities. We live in the facts we make believe we have two completely unique beliefs, values ​​, or ideas, leaving you disoriented and confused.

We know they cheat, we know cheating is wrong, we know it hurts, we know we deserve better, yet they put us in the spotlight by projecting their mistakes onto us.

“If only you had paid me more attention.”

Most of the time, they will go to great lengths to deny infidelity by calling us “insecure.” Or “Jealous.” They don’t hide the truth to protect our feelings, like when cheating is committed in a non-narcissistic relationship, where the cheater would feel regret, feel guilt, offer a sincere apology. This kind of infidelity still hurts. A narcissist hides the truth from us to save himself.

Narcissists rely on you to hold yourself accountable, so they don’t have to be responsible for their behavior.
Sometimes no response is the best response. But if you are around a narcissist, your safety is your priority. The eyes of narcissists are the window to their intention. The saying that people’s eyes are the window to the soul also applies to the narcissist. In a sense, that means that eyes are the window to one’s true intentions or actual emotional state of mind.

Whatever emotions they feel that you see in their eyes, that blank look, when they think nothing, empty, that intense look in the love bombing is the culprit’s delight when they manipulate and you fall.

That look of contempt is because they believe they are better than others.

The evil look in their anger, their hatred with a passion as they seek revenge. They think that you have despised them and believe that you have deserved all the horror they have done to you.

When a narcissist feels threatened in some way, fear of exposure, fear of failure, fear of abandonment, their pupils can dilate as a natural response to feeling threatened.

This allows them to give that dark black empty look with their furious, terrifying, and stern look. Since there seems to be nothing, it can be hard to feel empathy when you’re scared.

Therefore, a narcissist who feels threatened gets angry without any empathy. Someone from whom you should leave safely and well prepared.

The individual narcissist would depend on how their right comes across, whether they show that right to others openly or covertly, grandly, or as a victim.

Signs of thinking you have rights on someone:

They rarely help unless there is something in it for them.

Expect others to help them.

Happy to give reluctantly.

A belief that they deserve special treatment.

Do not accept responsibility.

Always blames.

Rarely admits wrong “I’m sorry, I’m sorry, but I’m sorry if.”

Whatever you give them or whatever they have, they always want more.

Jealous of others.

Claims that others are fortunate.

Always find something to complain about.

Lack of self-awareness.

Won’t take no for an answer.

Entitled narcissists unreasonably demand that others conform to their ways, believing that they deserve special treatment. A belief that they should not wait. In a restaurant, a table should just be set for them. In fast-food restaurants, their food should be ready immediately.

They don’t feel like queuing for things and can get very impatient. Narcissists don’t believe they have to pay for their money or think others should pay more.

Toxic people think they might be late, and everyone should be instantly thankful that they showed up in the first place. They don’t accept the word no. They may try to make their way into areas and claim to know the owner. Some even say, “Don’t you know who I am.” if that doesn’t work, they can become aggressive and abusive.

They will intimidate the staff to try and get their way. They will point out the mistakes of others and beam at the ruin of people. Sometimes they have tantrums like a toddler when they don’t get their way.

They’re compulsive liars. It’s a defence mechanism.

Even if you have proof, they will keep lying to get out and find a way to blame others or why it was all your fault.

How to disarm.

Look for facts; if they lie bare-faced with evidence in front of them, remember they don’t want to be held accountable for their behaviour.

They don’t want to face the consequences of their actions.

They don’t want to give you closure on the relationship because they should give in to the role they played, and as a narcissist, they are never wrong. Therefore they gaslight, shift the blame, and project to hand over the responsibility for their behavior to you. Their behavior is their responsibility, not yours.

A narcissist will not provide closure by recognizing what they are trying to do, observing their behavior, and giving themselves closure. They will just use it as an opportunity to open new wounds.

Delusions and denial.

A selfish person may feel ashamed of the things they do. However, they want to avoid feeling this shame, so they project their shame onto others by shifting blame to escape accountability and not take responsibility. To prevent them from feeling any kind of emotions, such as guilt and remorse.

As a coping mechanism, they fool themselves and those around them to avoid painful emotions.

For a narcissist, their own reality is the only reality, and it is real, even if it isn’t. (therapeutic insight)

Indeed, their reality is often seen by them that way, and even when it isn’t, they tell themselves and others their truth just as much as their own unconscious believes it to be accurate.

They have to create a story in their own head that is perceived the only way they want to see it, which is that everything is always someone else’s fault and never theirs.

The more this goes into their heads, the more they believe it’s right. That’s why their stories are so compelling, even when things don’t quite add up.

How to disarm. Write down what the narcissist said, and then write down your reality.

Object and speed!

People are a device for a narcissist, where we turn on the hot tap for hot water and cold for cold, a narcissist finds people to give them positive attention and admiration or reactions.

No one falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs to live somewhere.
They try to prove to themselves and the outside world that there is nothing wrong with them. Often the narcissist knows that it didn’t work out with you, which is why they blame you all.

That is trying to prove to themselves and the people around them that they were never the problem. So they pull out all the stops with the new relationship, but for one day, the same cycle is repeated as the narcissist still has a condition it is who they are.

Whether you were the one who left or if they left you when you find out they moved on so quickly into a “new” relationship.

When you’re left heartbroken and pick up the shattered pieces of your life, dreams, hopes, and trying to heal yourself and move forward, it’s hard enough when a relationship with two loving people breaks down. Yes, some loving people go fast to heal the pain, often taking the trauma from the previous connection to the next.

Narcissists go from partner to partner to meet their own needs, meet their own insecurities, prove their worth, prove they are not, gain admiration, feel special, and make people out.

They don’t move on because they love and care for the new, they move on to take advantage and meet their needs, and it may take a few months or a few years. They only use someone until they can’t take them anymore use and then find another replacement.

It didn’t start with you, and it won’t end with you.

They don’t like the ones they use to meet their needs. If you think about it, all a narcissist gave you was stress, heartbreak, anxiety, PTSD, insecurities, cognitive dissonance, and self-doubt. If you’re lucky, there’s financial debt and a lot more.

A narcissist is a scammer. Narcissists exploit people, mistreat people, and make people believe in things they won’t live up to. They don’t help you when you think you need them the most. Toxic people sink you and then dive back when they need to exploit you.

The bottom line for narcissists is that they aren’t loyal, aren’t honest, don’t care about you, and aren’t considerate. They don’t want what you want, and that’s consistent with narcissists. Toxic people don’t wish teamwork and harmony and peace and love and progressive, forward growth together. They don’t want that.

That’s boring for them. For us, that is wonderful and soul-fulfilling.

What narcissists want is drama, and drama gets very annoying. And there’s nothing progressive or valuable about it. They discuss the same things over and over and over and over, and it never gets resolved.

That’s incredibly boring. That’s not what life is for. But if you heal, you can put all that boring, repetitive, predictive crap behind you. You can start a life of limitless expansion, new frontiers and beautiful trajectories. You can move forward to the dreams, goals, and development without getting caught up in the boring cycles of a dark self.

Instead of trying to find your purpose, start reconnecting with it. (therapeutic insight)

You have your goal, and you know what it is. The stresses and hardships of life have caused you to lose connection with it. So, what connects us to our purpose?

Our soul does that because our soul is the essence of our body. The soul is life energy. When we heal our soul, we reconnect with that life energy. We can finally understand why everything had to happen the way it did.

Your purpose does not exist outside of yourself. It lies within you. You were literally born with a mission, and your life thus far has trained you perfectly to follow your purpose. Focus on the reconnection, and everything else will unfold as it was intended.

Your purpose exists in you. As humans, we focus on what we can achieve rather than on who we can be and what we can heal to reconnect.

This is what I’m all about to be aware of that your soul, your life energy when healed and healthy, can reconnect you to your higher purpose. I am a big believer in soul healing and love the benefits it has brought me. Beautiful soul, I am proud of you, you can do this, and you are not alone.

It makes me so sad when I see people with big hearts and big dreams being cut off by friends and family.

I know this isn’t the case for everyone, but it sure is for some, and it’s heartbreaking. A strong support network with people who encourage us is essential to our growth and overall well-being.

When I was a little girl, I had big dreams from the beginning, and I wanted to make every little thing a party. Not just for me and everyone else, but for one side of my family, this didn’t fit their materialistic culture.

As a child, I quickly learned that my desire to see life as one big party was not “normal”.

How sad? But don’t worry, this girl has now grown into a queen, and this queen is fully aware that life is meant to be lived and can be treated as one big party (instead of a shopping list of possessions) you need to be considered successful)

Enough about me, the reason I’m telling you all this is because I want to remind you to go after your dreams and celebrate life. Life is meant to be lived. No one can tell you how to live your life.

Spoiler alert:

Some people will spit out your dreams because they’re too big to understand, but it doesn’t mean they’re too big for you in any way! In fact, they are the perfect size for you! You’ve probably heard this before, but it’s so true. If you can dream it, you can have it. Your dreams come to you for a reason, so they can be born into reality by you.

Did you know that explaining too much in adulthood can result from never having heard as a child?

When I understood this, I could understand why I always explained myself too much to people.

This can be cured by nurturing our inner child and giving her the love and care she would have needed as a little girl. All the love!

I am only slightly obsessed with the connection between trauma and the soul. Especially since I (in the past) suffered from soul loss. At the time, I had no idea what was going on, with the awareness I had when I looked for help in all the wrong directions which only resulted in long-lasting pain.

And let me tell you that this pain is something I don’t want to see in anyone, and if I can help just one soul to come out on the other side of this pain, it means everything to me. If I can help hundreds, oh what a time to be alive.

So I’m so proud to be who I am now and give this a voice.

I am here to share my knowledge and experiences so that the souls who need to hear this now will do so.

So, in short, when we experience a trauma or the hardships of life, a fragment of the soul leaves the body to protect an individual from fully feeling the impact and pain of the trauma.

This happens every time a person experiences trauma, so it can eventually lead to complete soul loss. The person might say next: I’m not just the same anymore, or I don’t know what to do now.

But I had no idea what was going on. When this happens, we feel empty (because the soul is life energy, it is the essence of the body). So without it, it’s no wonder we feel empty inside and desperate to feel whole again.

In ancient times, retrieving the fragments of the lost soul was the number one priority after a person went through a trauma. But in our modern age, this is rarely talked about, and more often than not, we look outside ourselves for solutions.

Also notable is that the empty “spaces” that a soul loss leaves attract other energies, and as a result, we become vulnerable to disease.

The loss of the soul will help one survive trauma, but what we lack in our modern culture is the realization of the importance of recovering its lost fragments.

There are no two healing journeys that look exactly alike. (therapeutic insight)

Just like we are never exactly the same as anyone else. Everyone’s journey is unique and beautiful, including yours.

HONOR THAT! I invite you to honor yourself and the beautiful progress you have made thus far. Repeat after me: I celebrate my unique and beautiful healing journey.

Possible versus impossible. ️

It’s a choice, and it depends on your mindset. I like to talk about when we get excited and tell someone else about our plans or ideas.

So let’s say you have an idea or a project that you are working on that YOU believe and even know in your heart that it is possible to achieve. And then you decide to tell someone else. Well… This person actually thinks shit about your idea and excitement, does that sound familiar?

I know this has happened all my life. You know they call me dreamy. If you’re anything like me (which is probably because you’re reading this here), this could have happened to you too.

Here are a few things I remind myself of when this happens: ️

People don’t see reality as they see it from their point of view.

So from their point of view, it would not be possible for them.

This (I can’t stress enough) in no way means it’s not possible for you.

It’s a mindset, so maybe my perspective is different from theirs.

I have also become more selective about who I share my dreams, projects, and ideas with.

When I say big dreams, I mean the plans you know in your heart are meant for you. No goal is ever too big or too small. If you have one, it’s yours, and it’s meant for you to let no one is saying it isn’t. ️

Did you know that a part of your soul leaves the body while you are experiencing a trauma?
These fragments of the soul leave the body to protect it from pain and to survive. The soul is life energy, the essence of the body. So what happens when this part of the soul leaves is that we lose a part of the soul, a part of who we are.

Every time trauma is experienced, a part of the soul leaves, leading to complete soul loss without restoring.

This happened to me. (I didn’t know at the time)

Do these sentences sound familiar to you:

I’m just not the same anymore.

I feel stuck.

I don’t know what to do now.

Some signs of soul loss.

Lack of energy.

Failure of purpose (this was a big one for me).

Seek outside validation (guilty).

Doubting yourself.

Inability to move forward in life.

I’ve been here not knowing what the actual one was.

Here’s the good news: your pain has a purpose.

The reason we lose sight of it is that:

  1. It’s damn painful, and we hurt, and it feels unfair. But also …
  2. Without our whole soul, we become detached from our higher purpose.

My mission is to share my personal experience combined with my knowledge so that the women who need to hear this can find it.

I believe that when we heal our souls, we reconnect with our purpose. (therapeutic insight)

Heal your soul and reconnect with your purpose.
I wish someone had said those words to me 2 years ago. I wish someone told me it’s possible to feel alive again. Our soul is life energy, and every time we experience a trauma, a part of our soul leaves the body to protect us and survive.

The more trauma, the more fragments of the soul leave. This is what ultimately leads to a complete loss of the soul. It happened to me. I always thought, felt, and said: I’m just not the same anymore. It was clear that I had no understanding of what was going on and sought help in all the wrong directions, resulting in long-lasting pain.

This prolonged pain is what brings me here, what fuels my mission. Do you resonate? What if I told you that you would be able to reconnect with your highest purpose and feel fully alive again. It is possible what I have done and am here now to help others do the same.

Someone cannot help everyone, but everyone can help someone.

Isn’t that so true?
That’s why we are so many of us.

So many lightworkers on the planet because we are all needed!

Everyone needs a different drug, even the same kind of medication needs different ways of administration!

Self-love is the highest frequency that draws to you everything you want. When you love yourself and respect your time/energy, how the universe responds to you, changes. ⁣
You are sending the signal that you deserve so much more from life. ⁣

Everything starts with you. People will treat you the way you let them.

People also feel the energy you radiate and how you carry yourself from the inside out. The experiences you attract have a lot to do with how you feel about yourself. Your standards set the tone for how others treat you. ⁣

If we can love ourselves, we can move confidently. We don’t hold on to the love and need for approval from others. ⁣

Self-love is how you regain your power. ⁣

When we learn to love ourselves, we heal wounds and vibrate higher. ⁣

Everything starts and ends with the relationship you have with yourself.

You had a spiritual awakening?

You lost all your friends, and all your relatives call you crazy? ⁣⁣⁣
Great, welcome to paradise. ⁣⁣⁣
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One of the many harsh and ego-destroying illusions that arise after a spiritual awakening is friendships lost. As you grow spiritually and mentally away from your old self, it will reflect in your companies as well. ⁣⁣⁣

The same friends you’ve always known can become aloof. And this distance that arises may not even be a choice but simply the natural disconnection that results from your awakening. You no longer share the same ideas and interests. Furthermore, you may want to spend more time alone (just like in my case). You find yourself drifting apart. ⁣⁣⁣

And remember that this drifting apart should not be taken personally, but rather vibrating. ⁣⁣⁣

A spiritual awakening is not for everyone, but we will all experience it when it is our time. It is a very personal experience that requires you to explore the depths of your soul and reality. You lose not only your friends but also your mind. But no matter how lonely the path gets, you will always connect with those on the same frequency.
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An old alchemist comforted one of his disciples: “However isolated you are and how lonely you feel if you do your work sincerely and conscientiously, unknown friends will come looking for you.

Addiction comes in many forms.

Many of us assume that addiction relates only to substances or behaviors such as sex and gambling. However, many people are influenced by a love obsession—a deep need to be loved and validated through a relationship and feelings of pain and fear when that external source of validation is unavailable. ⠀ ⠀

Love obsession usually starts out of fear of being alone or being rejected. This fear often has its roots in the attachment style we learned in childhood. The origins of love obsession must be identified and tackled before moving forward and returning to good mental and behavioural health.

A subtle symptom of trauma! (therapeutic insight)

If you find yourself spending more and more time alone because you think others don’t understand you or because you have trouble connecting, you may be experiencing one of the more subtle symptoms of trauma.

You may avoid social situations, such as dinner with a friend or a party, because something there might remind you of a memory you would instead not think about, which you may be afraid of or feel very uncomfortable about. ⠀ ⠀

You may be hesitant to reach out to others because you feel you should be completely independent and need no one else.

If any of these sounds familiar, you may be experiencing social withdrawal — a common symptom many people experience after a single or multiple traumatic events. ⠀

Therapy as a reference point!

Trauma is often relational, meaning it stems from ruptures in our sense of safety and security in relationships with others. If a relationship has been the source of our trauma, it can also be a healing tool.

In therapy, we are guided to explore our relationships and can use the attuned therapeutic relationship as a reference point to determine what a healthy relationship looks like.

We know that in our early years and into our mid-twenties, our brains are still developing.
Our experiences from birth to adulthood are very formative and form the basis for how our brains work later in life. ⠀ ⠀

Recent neuroscience research has shown that the brain is neuroplastic—they can destroy and create neural pathways—well into adulthood.

This casts a powerful light on the importance of positive, attuned relationships and emphasizes that it is never too late to heal.

Substance use or risky behaviour!

To mitigate or escape from their traumatic feelings and memories, where often a lack of love, alignment, and secure attachment has created a deep void and low self-esteem in a person, many trauma survivors seek love and connection. Through maladaptive means such as substance use or other risky behavior. ⠀ ⠀

The danger with this approach is that it simply isn’t a substitute for real, authentic love and connection. Prolonged attempts to connect through such means lead to a deterioration in our physical and mental health, making healing from trauma all the more difficult.

The focus of therapy:

Usually focuses on developing the client’s ability to integrate their past traumatic experiences into their current life.

This means that we go back to the moment of traumatization and make room in the self to fully process what has happened.

This can be a challenging and uncomfortable experience, but it can be approached slowly and gradually and supported with love and compassion through therapy.

Essential to healing from trauma is the acceptance of our innate vulnerability. (herapeutic insight)

When we deny or try to suppress our vulnerability, we also place obstacles between ourselves and a deep sense of love and belonging. Openness helps us bond with others and, when confronted with compassion, makes us feel like we are not alone in the world. ⠀

Survivors of trauma are often emotionally very vulnerable.
Due to past experiences, often adverse childhood experiences, such as abuse, neglect, or abandonment,

There is a deep and pervasive fear or a firmly held belief that vulnerability will undoubtedly lead to rejection or judgment, and the shame surrounding these concepts can be unbearable.

Therapists can help clients reconnect with their vulnerability and repair the relationship with the self from within.

Female Narcissists!

Narcissists hide their true nature. The female narcissist is a MASTER at hiding her TRUE nature. She can come across as a great mother, a great wife, neighbor, friend, volunteer. She had a great “wild face”.

But often, only her husband and children (family) know the truth. The female narcissist works similar to her male counterpart: she likes love bombs and hasty intimacy, all her exes are crazy, there is cheating, lying, erratic behavior, smear campaigning, flying monkeys.

Female narcissists are passive-aggressive and sneaky with their abusive tactics.

Some of her traits are: – Always being the VICTIM (of EVERYTHING)

Incredibly sensitive to criticism, she cannot handle or tolerate it, but on the other hand, she is hypercritical of others.

She has exaggerated and false empathy.

It’s empathy for oneself to get something in return.

Weathered with her image and reputation

She will do anything to hide bad behavior.

A narcissist is needy and demanding, seeking attention.

She uses shame and guilt.

With attention and affection, she tries to get what she wants. She is a master at this.

A toxic person will have some very loyal and vicious “flying monkeys”.

She wants to portray herself as a good, ethical person, but she WILL use her sexuality to manipulate and control others.

The narcissist believes she is unique and superior to others.

She’s jealous.

She can’t stand the success of others.

She will work behind the scenes to map out someone’s demise.

All because of envy.

Female narcissists are insidious.

They will throw people under the bus, betray those who trust her. They will tell tall tales and destroy your good name. A toxic person has no boundaries because they think they are above them.

They have a problem with certain behaviors and what that behavior might do to their “reputation” if exposed or discovered.

The NPD can get away with fooling many people because they can come across as vulnerable or “shy.”

Experts in justifying bad behaviour.

Somehow they are always in a position where they “had to” make a morally corrupt DECISION.

I think a lot of the internet bickering about mental health stigma would be cleared up if people really knew what they were talking about.
One of my views is that talking about personality disorders such as narcissism and psychopathy is “mental health stigma”—that words like “abnormal psychology” and the use of the “P” word are offensive.

First of all, how does this stigmatize a mental illness if personality disorders are not considered a mental illness?

Yes, there are levels of severity in PDs – but they all have the same 4 core disorders, which will be problematic in their own right.

People have a right to educate themselves and protect themselves from harm or further harm, so if that bothers you, just leave.

When recovering and healing from narcissistic abuse, you must prioritize your time and energy.

When the numbness goes away, and your head clears up, a whole new set of emotions comes up. With clear thinking and perspective, you begin to see how toxic, dysfunctional, unfair, chaotic, and totally one-sided the relationship was.

While grieving, you don’t just feel sad.

You feel shocked, foggy in the head, pain, and exhaustion that are almost incapacitating.

Feel all the emotions. Let it all come. It will take months (yes months, maybe years, depending on how long you stayed) for the thoughts and feelings to wash over you.

To keep your head above water and avoid getting stuck, you need to control your thoughts, so they don’t control you.

Concentrating on what you can control will make you a master of your future rather than a victim of your circumstances. We have survived relationships with the most insidious form of psychopathy. We are survivors. The present is here and now, whether you like it or not. Find a way to make it work for you.

For those seeking closure from a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Forget it. They won’t give it to you. The narcissist will either be too mean to provide you with anything that could help you, OR they don’t care about you and don’t care about doing anything for anyone else unless there’s a reward in it for them, AND they’ll only blame you for everything it.

Narcissists live in a misguided world where they are superior beings. They never do anything wrong, and everything is always someone else’s fault. You have to find closure within yourself.

Try to connect with your true self. Determine your values ​​and your limits. And never settle for less than what you are willing to give.

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