Self-betrayal looks like this:


Self-betrayal (self-betrayal) is a coping mechanism.

To deny your own needs because someone else would choose you is self-betrayal.
Letting your boundaries go.

Seeking employment because someone you love sees as “successful,” even if it’s no longer aligned, is self-treason.
Allowing someone to do something that harms both of you because someone wouldn’t let you down is self-betrayal.
Adopting the beliefs of others or participating in “groupthink” to feel approval.

We learn this conditioning when we have grown up in families where we deny our needs. Or our needs to receive love in such a family are not considered.

When we betray ourselves, we feel resentment.

Our path to healing comes from meeting our needs and honoring those personal needs. Furthermore, you have to set clear boundaries and forgive yourself for the times you betrayed yourself to cope with a loss of love.

Self-betrayal can take many forms, such as ignoring your problems, ignoring your needs to meet others’ needs, and more. Many of us have experienced self-betrayal in relationships due to a poor sense of identity. Another reason can be a lack of self-esteem.

Self-betrayal is not the same as making compromises.

When a person compromises, they don’t pretend they don’t have a clear preference. Instead, in light of their choice, they signal to another that they are willing to give ground for the sake of the relationship or some other higher purpose.

A person who betrays himself is highly self-centered because his main concern is how he comes across others. They are willing to deny their preferences to avoid discomfort and not take responsibility for their choices. They would much rather blame the person who made a choice for them.

How do you take care of yourself?

And we’re not talking about great beauty treatments or new clothes. We also notice that we focus more on ‘external forms of self-love.’ We have also needed our necessary hours (read: dááágen) to really turn inward and dare to face our shadow side. It takes many guts, self-knowledge, and responsibility.

This is all part of a much more enduring form of self-love. Merel Teunis tells in Self Love Talk how you can create a loving lifestyle for yourself for a long time. Self Love Talk is a book full of beautiful insights, beautiful quotes, simple, practical tips, and candid anecdotes about bringing more love into your life.

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Gepubliceerd door johanpersyn

Het is niet genoeg om klinische beschrijvingen en wetenschappelijke proefschriften te vinden over aandoeningen en hun symptomen. Ook is het niet nuttig om alleen over het verdriet van de slachtoffers te schrijven. Soms hebben we voorbeelden nodig - voorbeelden van het leven - van het gedrag dat deze mensen vertonen en een vertaling van wat echt is, echt aan de hand, voordat we het kunnen internaliseren en de informatie toepassen in ons eigen leven. Maar dikwijls hebben we ook iemand nodig om te luisteren naar onze reactie op die verhalen en gebeurtenissen in ons leven. Daar wil ik mijn ervaring met u delen om samen te groeien in kwalitatievere opvoeding en beleving.

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