Overcoming Fear: Embracing Authenticity in Relationships

You know you would rather not continue living in turmoil. Yet when you imagine being free of it, you may feel the intense fear. Who will I be without this pain? Do you a fear being yourself?

This stands to reason if fear is all you’ve to know.

When fear comes with harsh self-judgment, you can read ** Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff for further reflection on acknowledging your feelings and treating yourself with kindness. These book links are affiliate links: a purchase may earn us a small commission, at no extra cost to you.

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To be yourself in a relationship is not that easy. In theory, we all feel that we should share feelings and thoughts openly. It should be done honestly with others. This is especially true with close friends and partners. But in practice, it turns out that that honesty can hurt someone else. Or that the relationship with that person becomes less close.

This conflict between theory and practice is not just a communication problem.  To be yourself in a relationship is also an internal matter. In dealing with others, there is a constant tension between our true self and our relational self. We struggle between authenticity and connectedness.

To explore your own habits, needs and everyday choices, you can read ** How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera (English edition) as a companion for personal reflection.

If you are used to focusing strongly on others, you must always suppress your opinions and feelings. 

This causes tension, resulting in complaints like headaches, stomachaches, and anxiety.

You will also consider yourself a slacker, so your self-image also suffers if you keep swallowing your words. Self-centered, authentic people sound blunt and numb.

Colleagues, friends, and partners quickly ignore them or seek confrontation. In this way, few intimate relationships stay, and the relationships that do exist seriously lose quality.

Balanced authenticity interacts with personal well-being and satisfaction with your relationships. If you manage to be yourself while maintaining good relationships with others, you feel more controlling your life. So, balanced authenticity makes you happier – surprisingly because you are more considerate of others.

For further reading on expressing your needs and making room for personal boundaries in relationships, you can read ** Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab (English edition).

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