What is PTSD?
The narcissist infogram 12
Fear of intimacy.
The narcissist infogram 13
Narcissist Check List.
- Two-faced, critical of others behind their backs.
- Blames others for failures.
- Acts differently in public and private.
- Unreliable
- Superior attitude.
- Lives in the fantasy world of porn and affairs, and dreams of fame.
- Distorts facts to suit own agenda.
- Irresponsible with money.
- Only emotionally available when wants something.
- Lacks sympathy for others.
- Provokes people, then blames them for a fight.
- Can’t admit mistakes.
Understanding Cognitive dissonance about narcissistic abuse:
Stockholm syndrome involves the victim paradoxically forming an active relationship with their oppressor; this is called “Trauma Bonding.”
When victims of narcissistic are suffering from Stockholm Syndrome, they are often seen by outsiders as somehow having participated in some bizarre way that seems to support their abuse.
However, to understand how the trauma bonding occurs, it is especially relevant to figure out what is involved in the decision-making and problem-solving process of the victim.
This theory is known as Cognitive Dissonance.
If therapists are to understand the behavior of clients who have been victims of narcissistic abuse, then it is crucial for them to appreciate why the victim combines the two unhealthy conditions of Stockholm Syndrome and Cognitive Dissonance as part of their survival strategy.
When these two strategies are in place, the victim firmly believes that their relationship is not only acceptable, but also vital for their survival.
They become so enmeshed in the relationship with the abuser that they feel that their world (mental and emotional) would fall apart if the relationship stops.
Reverse Projection.
Before we realize the truth about the narcissist in our lives, we relate to them as if they are rational human beings possessing a conscience, integrity and some degree of self-awareness.
We trust their words because we don’t lie and manipulate people, and trust that the people who claim to love us will do the same.
You give them the benefit of the doubt because we believe they actually love us, and no one who truly loves us would purposely say or do anything to hurt us.
You are in essence projecting our good qualities on to them, and when they don’t respond the way we expect an average person would, we become confused, hurt, question our reality and believe we are to blame in some way.
The problem is that narcissists do not think, operate or play by the same rules as us, and our failing to recognize this sets us up for manipulation and misery by default.
Covert Narcissists.
Seem to be quite calm, shy, loving, humble and altruistic, when in fact they are :
deceptive
Cunning
Sly
Manipulative
Controlling
Underhand
Enraged
Dangerous
Troublemakers who act behind the scenes
