There are nine characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and one of them is …
A sense of entitlement. The narcissist’s correct spills over into their other characteristics, the beliefs they think are superior to those around them. It’s a therapeutic insight to be conscious of that.
In their arrogance, they are proud of who they are and how they treat others to meet their needs. They exploit others to meet their needs with a lack of empathy to care.
The greatness they think is better than those around them. Narcissists require special attention. They want admiration through love or fear. They are preoccupied with their strength and success. This is regardless of whom they hurt along the way.
They believe they have entitled to anything and everything they want. A narcissist thinks they deserve special treatment and privileges. That sense of entitlement is often why they get angry when they feel they should wait.
They will use the silent treatment, rant, and provoke others if they feel their right has been criticized. They expect the people around them to abide by their demands.
Narcissists are hypocritical. They feel they should do what they want. However, those around them should do what the narcissist says and not as they do.
Even the best people have their limits.(Therapeutic insight)
Good, kind, generous, loyal, loving people have their limitations. We are human beings, after all.
When people tear you down and push all your buttons, they use your insecurities and weaknesses against you. This can send you into a state of anxiety and depression. Most people react by trying to release all the stress, heartache, pain, and emotions.
However, it only makes us feel worse because we feel guilty, guilty, and more lost in who we really are.
Definition of Reactive Abuse.
Reactive abuse occurs when someone who has been assaulted or controlled, either physically or psychologically. They respond to their abuser by standing up for themselves. This can involve yelling, hitting, spitting, throwing things, or insulting with words.
That’s all the abuser needs to put the blame on whoever he provoked. From their reactions, the real victims often think they are guilty. The narcissist will only tell their side of the story to others in the smear campaign. This story makes you look terrible. It highlights what you did to them and what you said to them.
They won’t tell people what was the lead up to what happened. It’s just further manipulation for the narcissist to play the victim again. They do this for those around them. They make you feel like you’re wrong and that you have to apologize.
Abusers like the reactive abuse because, in their minds, it’s proof that the person who responded is unstable and crazy. They believe the person who replied is mentally ill.
They will use it against you for years. Narcissistic people rewrite their own history. They change the stories they tell themselves. Moreover, they are never responsible. They mean so many lies. They often believe their own lies and reality. They will use reactive abuse against you for years to come.
Lies are incredibly effective.
Most healthy people try not to lie in the first place. If they do, the guilt they feel will make them admit it. If healthy people don’t and get caught, they’ll apologize for it. They will learn from it and not do it again. A narcissist lies frequently. They often tell lies you wouldn’t even consider as lies, like ‘I love you.’
The more they repeat this, the more you believe it. This happens even if their actions don’t match their words. It’s often like most narcissists, whether they’re a boss, a parent, or a friend. Whoever they may be in your life, you find yourself with some idealization.
Or they will intermittently offer idealization games, so when they say “I love you.” Or “I love your work ethic.” You believe they do. Then when they turn to you so cruel and cold, you begin to awaken from the lies. Your instincts scream at you. They come back to you with the same. As your mind starts to believe those constant lies, you begin to overlook their deeds. You also start ignoring the truth.
How Narcissists Play the Blame Game?
A narcissistic projection mixes their manipulative Gaslighting and their manipulative Blame-shifting. They do everything they can to distract you from the truth. They do their best to cover the facts with twisted lies. They hide the reality of their toxic, hurtful, and negative behavior from you.
At the same time, they make you doubt and blame yourself and take responsibility for your selfish actions. They make you defend yourself in front of them for how you think and feel because of their hurtful ways. So, they escape accountability. The toxic person stays in control. They repeatedly get away with their actions. Meanwhile, you slowly sink and forget under their trance.
Psychological projection is a defense mechanism used by a narcissist. It helps them defend their ego against their own negative qualities. They deny the existence of their own inner flaws and place them on others.
It’s a way of denying theirs and our reality.
They deny something they have done. They shift the blame for their behavior, thoughts, or feelings onto others.
They may project thoughts, flaws, emotions, characteristics, actions, and feelings that they don’t like in themselves.
Projection is the narcissistic manipulation method of controlling the image.
The realities they want others to see lead us to lose our minds. This often causes Cognitive Dissonance because we live in two different realities. We live in the facts we make believe. We have two entirely unique beliefs, values, or ideas. This leaves you disoriented and confused.
We know they cheat. We know cheating is wrong. We know it hurts. We know we deserve better. Yet, they put us in the spotlight by projecting their mistakes onto us.
“If only you had paid me more attention.”
Most of the time, they will go to great lengths to deny infidelity by calling us “insecure.” Or “Jealous.” They don’t hide the truth to protect our feelings. In a non-narcissistic relationship, the cheater would feel regret and guilt. They would offer a sincere apology. This kind of infidelity still hurts. A narcissist hides the truth from us to save himself.
Narcissists rely on you to hold yourself accountable, so they don’t have to be responsible for their behavior.
Sometimes no response is the best response. But if you are around a narcissist, your safety is your priority. The eyes of narcissists are the window to their intention. The saying that people’s eyes are the window to the soul also applies to the narcissist. In a sense, that means that eyes are the window to one’s true intentions or actual emotional state of mind.
Whatever emotions they feel that you see in their eyes, that blank look, can be telling. When they think nothing, they appear empty. That intense look during the love bombing is the culprit’s delight when they manipulate, and you fall.
That look of contempt is because they believe they are better than others.
The evil look in their anger, their hatred with a passion as they seek revenge. They think you have despised them. They believe you have deserved all the horror they have done to you.
When a narcissist feels threatened in some way, such as fear of exposure, failure, or abandonment, their pupils can dilate. This dilation is a natural response to feeling threatened.
This allows them to give that dark black empty look with their furious, terrifying, and stern look. Since there seems to be nothing, it can be hard to feel empathy when you’re scared.
Therefore, a narcissist who feels threatened gets angry without any empathy. Someone from whom you should leave safely and well-prepared.
The individual narcissist depends on how they perceive their rights. They might express these rights to others openly or covertly. This expression can be done grandly or by portraying themselves as a victim.
Signs of thinking you have rights on someone:
They rarely help unless there is something in it for them.
Expect others to help them.
Happy to give reluctantly.
A belief that they deserve special treatment.
Do not accept responsibility.
Always blames.
Rarely admits wrong “I’m sorry, I’m sorry, but I’m sorry if.”
Whatever you give them or whatever they have, they always want more.
Jealous of others.
Claims that others are fortunate.
Always find something to complain about.
Lack of self-awareness.
Won’t take no for an answer.
Entitled narcissists unreasonably demand that others conform to their ways, believing they deserve special treatment. A belief that they should not wait. In a restaurant, a table should just be set for them. In fast-food restaurants, their food should be ready immediately.
They don’t feel like queuing for things and can get very impatient. Narcissists don’t believe they have to pay for their money or think others should pay more.
Toxic people believe they might be late. Everyone should be instantly thankful that they showed up in the first place. They don’t accept the word no. They may try to make their way into areas and claim to know the owner. Some even say, “Don’t you know who I am.” if that doesn’t work, they can become aggressive and abusive.
They will intimidate the staff to try and get their way. They will point out the mistakes of others and beam at the ruin of people. Sometimes they have tantrums like a toddler when they don’t get their way.
They’re compulsive liars. It’s a defense mechanism.
Even if you have proof, they will keep lying to get out. They will find a way to blame others. They may also explain why it was all your fault.
How to disarm.
Look for facts. If they lie bare-faced with evidence in front of them, remember this. They don’t want to be held accountable for their behavior.
They don’t want to face the consequences of their actions.
They don’t want to give you closure on the relationship. They should acknowledge the role they played. However, as a narcissist, they are never wrong. Therefore, they gaslight, shift the blame, and project to hand over the responsibility for their behavior to you. Their behavior is their responsibility, not yours.
A narcissist will not provide closure. They do this by not recognizing what they are trying to do. Observing their behavior and giving themselves closure is unlikely. They will just use it as an opportunity to open new wounds.
Delusions and denial.
A selfish person may feel ashamed of the things they do. However, they want to avoid feeling this shame. They project their shame onto others by shifting blame. This helps them escape accountability and not take responsibility. To prevent them from feeling any emotions, such as guilt and remorse.
They fool themselves and those around them as a coping mechanism to avoid painful emotions.
For a narcissist, their own reality is the only reality, and it is real, even if it isn’t. (therapeutic insight)
Indeed, they see their reality that way. Even when it isn’t, they tell themselves and others their truth. Their unconscious believes it to be accurate.
They have to create a story in their own head. They perceive it the only way they want to see it. They believe that everything is always someone else’s fault and never theirs.
The more this goes into their heads, the more they believe it’s right. That’s why their stories are so compelling, even when things don’t quite add up.
How to disarm. Write down what the narcissist said, and then write down your reality.
Object and speed!
People are a device for a narcissist. Just like we turn on the hot tap for hot water, a narcissist finds people to give them positive attention. We turn the cold tap for cold water. They also seek admiration or reactions.
No one falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs to live somewhere.
They try to prove to themselves and the outside world that nothing is wrong with them. Often the narcissist knows that it didn’t work out with you, which is why they blame you all.
That is trying to prove to themselves and the people around them that they were never the problem. So they pull out all the stops with the new relationship. However, the same cycle repeats after a day. The narcissist still has a condition; it is who they are.
Whether you were the one who left, or if they left you. You find out they moved on so quickly into a “new” relationship.
You’re left heartbroken and picking up the shattered pieces of your life, dreams, and hopes. Trying to heal yourself and move forward is hard enough. It’s even harder when a relationship with two loving people breaks down. Yes, some loving people go fast to heal the pain. They often take the trauma from the previous connection to the next.
Narcissists go from partner to partner to meet their own needs and insecurities. They aim to prove their worth and gain admiration. They want to feel special and manipulate people.
They don’t move on because they love and care for the new. They move on to take advantage and meet their needs. This process may take a few months or a few years. They only use someone until they can’t take them anymore and then find another replacement.
It didn’t start with you, and it won’t end with you.
They don’t like the ones they use to meet their needs. If you think about it, all a narcissist gave you was stress, heartbreak, anxiety, PTSD, insecurities, cognitive dissonance, and self-doubt. If you’re lucky, there’s financial debt and a lot more.
A narcissist is a scammer. Narcissists exploit people, mistreat people, and make people believe in things they won’t live up to. They don’t help you when you think you need them the most. Toxic people sink you and then dive back when they need to exploit you.
The bottom line for narcissists is that they aren’t loyal, aren’t honest, don’t care about you, and aren’t considerate. They don’t want what you want, and that’s consistent with narcissists. Toxic people don’t wish teamwork and harmony and peace and love and progressive, forward growth together. They don’t want that.
That’s boring for them. For us, that is wonderful and soul-fulfilling.
What narcissists want is drama, and drama gets very annoying. And there’s nothing progressive or valuable about it. They discuss the same things over and over and over and over, and it never gets resolved.
That’s incredibly boring. That’s not what life is for. But if you heal, you can put all that boring, repetitive, predictive crap behind you. You can start a life of limitless expansion, new frontiers, and beautiful trajectories. You can move forward toward your dreams. You can achieve your goals. Focus on development without getting caught up in the boring cycles of a dark self.
Instead of trying to find your purpose, start reconnecting with it. (therapeutic insight)
You have your goal, and you know what it is. The stresses and hardships of life have caused you to lose connection with it. So, what connects us to our purpose?
Our soul does that because our soul is the essence of our body. The soul is life energy. When we heal our soul, we reconnect with that life energy. We can finally understand why everything had to happen the way it did.
Your purpose does not exist outside yourself. It lies within you. You were literally born with a mission, and your life thus far has trained you perfectly to follow your purpose. Focus on the reconnection, and everything else will unfold as intended.
Your purpose exists in you. As humans, we focus on what we can achieve. We often overlook who we can be. We also neglect what we can heal to reconnect.
I’m all about helping you understand that your soul and life energy are essential. When they are healed and healthy, they can reconnect you to your higher purpose. I am a big believer in soul healing and love the benefits it has brought me. Beautiful soul, I am proud of you, you can do this, and you are not alone.
It makes me so sad. I see people with big hearts and big dreams. They are being cut off by friends and family.
I know this isn’t the case for everyone, but it sure is for some, and it’s heartbreaking. A strong support network with people who encourage us is essential to our growth and overall well-being.
As a little girl, I had big dreams from the start. I wanted to make every little thing a party. Not just for me and everyone else, but for one side of my family, this didn’t fit their materialistic culture.
As a child, I quickly learned that my desire to see life as one big party was not “normal.”
How sad? But don’t worry, this girl has now grown into a queen, and this queen is fully aware that life is meant to be lived and can be treated as one big party (instead of a shopping list of possessions) you need to be considered successful)
Enough about me. The reason I’m telling you all this is that I want to remind you to go after your dreams. Also, celebrate life. Life is meant to be lived. No one can tell you how to live your life.
Spoiler alert:
Some people will dismiss your dreams because they can’t comprehend them. This doesn’t mean your dreams are too big for you! In fact, they are the perfect size for you! You’ve probably heard this before, but it’s so true. If you can dream it, you can have it. Your dreams come to you for a reason, so they can be born into reality by you.
Did you know that explaining too much in adulthood can result from never having heard as a child?
When I understood this, I could understand why I always explained myself too much to people.
This can be cured by nurturing our inner child. We should give her the love and care she needed as a little girl. All the love!
I am only slightly obsessed with the connection between trauma and the soul. Especially since I (in the past) suffered from soul loss. At the time, I had no idea what was going on. I lacked the awareness when I looked for help in all the wrong directions. This only resulted in long-lasting pain.
Let me tell you that this pain is something I don’t want to see in anyone. If I can help just one soul, it means everything to me. Guiding them to come out on the other side of this pain is my goal. If I can help hundreds, oh what a time to be alive.
So, I’m so proud to be who I am now and give this a voice.
I am here to share my knowledge and experiences. The souls who need to hear this now will do so.
A fragment of the soul leaves the body when we experience a trauma or the hardships of life. This happens to protect an individual from fully feeling the impact and pain of the trauma.
This happens every time a person experiences trauma, which can eventually lead to complete soul loss. The person might say next: I’m not the same any more, or I don’t know what to do now.
But I had no idea what was going on. When this happens, we feel empty (because the soul is life energy, it is the essence of the body). So without it, it’s no wonder we feel empty inside and desperate to feel whole again.
In ancient times, retrieving the fragments of the lost soul was the top priority. This was particularly important after a person experienced trauma. But in our modern age, this is rarely discussed. We often look outside ourselves for solutions.
It is also notable that the empty “spaces” left by a soul loss attract other energies. As a result, we become vulnerable to disease.
The loss of the soul will help one survive trauma. However, our modern culture lacks awareness of the importance of recovering its lost fragments.
There are no two healing journeys that look exactly alike. (therapeutic insight)
Just like we are never the same as anyone else. Everyone’s journey is unique and beautiful, including yours.
HONOR THAT! I invite you to honor yourself and the beautiful progress you have made thus far. Repeat after me: I celebrate my unique and beautiful healing journey.
Possible versus impossible. ️
It’s a choice, and it depends on your mindset. I like to talk about when we get excited and tell someone else about our plans or ideas.
So let’s assume you have an idea or a project. You are working on it, and YOU believe it is achievable. You even know in your heart that it is possible to achieve. And then you decide to tell someone else. Well… This person actually thinks shit about your idea and excitement, does that sound familiar?
I know this has happened all my life. You know, they call me dreamy. If you’re anything like me (which is probably because you’re reading this here), this could have happened to you too.
Here are a few things I remind myself of when this happens: ️
People don’t see reality as they see it from their point of view.
So from their point of view, it would not be possible for them.
This (I can’t stress enough) in no way means it’s not possible for you.
It’s a mindset, so maybe my perspective is different from theirs.
I have also become more selective about who I share my dreams, projects, and ideas.
When I say big dreams, I mean the plans you know in your heart are meant for you. No goal is ever too big or too small. If you have one, it’s yours, and it’s meant for you to let no one is saying it isn’t. ️
Did you know that a part of your soul leaves the body while experiencing a trauma?
These soul fragments leave the body to protect it from pain and to survive. The soul is life energy, the essence of the body. When this part of the soul leaves, we lose a part of the soul. We lose a part of who we are.
Every time trauma is experienced, a part of the soul leaves, leading to complete soul loss without restoring.
This happened to me. (I didn’t know at the time)
Do these sentences sound familiar to you:
I’m just not the same anymore.
I feel stuck.
I don’t know what to do now.
Some signs of soul loss.
Lack of energy.
Failure of purpose (this was a big one for me).
Seek outside validation (guilty).
Doubting yourself.
Inability to move forward in life.
I’ve been here not knowing what the actual one was.
Here’s the good news: your pain has a purpose.
The reason we lose sight of it is that:
- It’s damn painful, and we hurt, and it feels unfair. But also …
- Without our whole soul, we become detached from our higher purpose.
My mission is to share my personal experience and my knowledge. This way, the women who need to hear this can find it.
I believe that when we heal our souls, we reconnect with our purpose. (therapeutic insight)
Heal your soul and reconnect with your purpose.
I wish someone had said those words to me 2 years ago. I wish someone told me it’s possible to feel alive again. Our soul is life energy. Every time we experience a trauma, a part of our soul leaves the body. It does this to protect us and survive.
The more trauma, the more fragments of the soul leave. This is what ultimately leads to a complete loss of the soul. It happened to me. I always thought, felt, and said: I’m just not the same anymore. I had no understanding of what was going on. It was clear and I sought help in all the wrong directions. This resulted in long-lasting pain.
This prolonged pain is what brings me here, what fuels my mission. Do you resonate? What if I told you that you could reconnect with your highest purpose? You would feel fully alive again. It is possible what I have done and am here now to help others do the same.
Someone cannot help everyone, but everyone can help someone.
Isn’t that so true?
That’s why we are so many of us.
So many light workers on the planet because we are all needed!
Everyone needs a different drug, even the same kind of medication needs different ways of administration!
Self-love is the highest frequency that draws to you everything you want. How the universe responds to you changes when you love yourself and respect your time/energy.
You are sending the signal that you deserve so much more from life.
Everything starts with you. People will treat you the way you let them.
People also feel the energy you radiate and how you carry yourself from the inside out. The experiences you attract have a lot to do with how you feel about yourself. Your standards set the tone for how others treat you.
If we can love ourselves, we can move confidently. We don’t hold on to the love and need for approval from others.
Self-love is how you regain your power.
When we learn to love ourselves, we heal wounds and vibrate higher.
Everything starts and ends with the relationship you have with yourself.
Did you have a spiritual awakening?
You lost all your friends, and all your relatives call you crazy?
Great, welcome to paradise.
Friends lost are one of the many harsh and ego-destroying illusions that arise after a spiritual awakening. As you grow spiritually and mentally away from your old self, it will reflect in your companies as well.
The same friends you’ve always known can become aloof. This distance may not even be a choice. It may simply be the natural disconnection that results from your awakening. You no longer share the same ideas and interests. Furthermore, you may want to spend more time alone (just like in my case). You find yourself drifting apart.
And remember that this drifting apart should not be taken personally, but rather vibrating.
A spiritual awakening is not for everyone, but we will all experience it when it is our time. It is a very personal experience that requires you to explore the depths of your soul and reality. You lose not only your friends, but also your mind. But no matter how lonely the path gets, you will always connect with those on the same frequency.
An old alchemist comforted one of his disciples: “However isolated you are, and how lonely you feel. If you do your work sincerely and conscientiously, unknown friends will seek you out.” They will come looking for you.”
Addiction comes in many forms.
Many of us assume that addiction relates only to substances or behaviors such as sex and gambling. However, many people are influenced by a love obsession. They have a deep need to be loved and validated through a relationship. They experience feelings of pain and fear when that external source of validation is unavailable. ⠀ ⠀
Love obsession usually starts out of fear of being alone or being rejected. This fear often has its roots in the attachment style we learned in childhood. We must identify and tackle the origins of love obsession. This is necessary before moving forward and returning to good mental and behavioral health.
A subtle symptom of trauma! (therapeutic insight)
If you find yourself spending more and more time alone, it may be because you think others don’t understand you. Alternatively, you may have trouble connecting with others. This behavior could indicate one of the more subtle symptoms of trauma.
You may avoid social situations, such as dinner with a friend or a party. Something there might remind you of a memory you would rather not think about. This memory may invoke fear or make you feel very uncomfortable. ⠀ ⠀
You may be hesitant to reach out to others. You feel you should be completely independent. You think you need no one else.
If any of these sounds familiar, you may be experiencing social withdrawal. This is a common symptom many people experience after a single or multiple traumatic event. ⠀
Therapy as a reference point!
Trauma is often relational, meaning it stems from ruptures in our sense of safety and security in relationships with others. If a relationship has been the source of our trauma, it can also be a healing tool.
In therapy, we explore our relationships. We use the attuned therapeutic relationship as a reference point. This helps determine what a healthy relationship looks like.
We know that our brains are still developing in our early years and into our mid-twenties.
Our experiences from birth to adulthood are very formative. They form the basis for how our brains work later in life.
Recent neuroscience research has shown that the brain is neuroplastic—they can destroy and create neural pathways—well into adulthood.
This highlights the importance of positive, attuned relationships. It shows that it is never too late to heal.
Substance use or risky behaviour!
Many trauma survivors seek love and connection to mitigate or escape from their traumatic feelings and memories. Often, a lack of love, alignment, and secure attachment creates a deep void and low self-esteem in a person. Through maladaptive means such as substance use or other risky behavior. ⠀ ⠀
The danger with this approach is that it simply isn’t a substitute for real, authentic love and connection. Prolonged attempts to connect through such means harm our physical health. They also harm our mental health. This makes healing from trauma even more difficult.
The focus of therapy:
Usually focuses on developing the client’s ability to integrate their past traumatic experiences into their current life.
This means that we return to the moment of traumatization. We make room for ourselves to fully process what has happened.
This can be a challenging and uncomfortable experience. However, it can be approached slowly and gradually. It can also be supported with love and compassion through therapy.
Essential to healing from trauma is the acceptance of our innate vulnerability. (therapeutic insight)
We create obstacles when we deny or try to suppress our vulnerability. These obstacles separate us from a deep sense of love and belonging. Openness helps us bond with others. When met with compassion, it makes us feel like we are not alone in the world. ⠀
Survivors of trauma are often emotionally very vulnerable.
Due to past experiences, often adverse childhood experiences, such as abuse, neglect, or abandonment,
There is a deep and pervasive fear. Many people firmly believe that vulnerability will undoubtedly lead to rejection or judgment. The shame surrounding these concepts can be unbearable.
Therapists can help clients reconnect with their vulnerability and repair the relationship with the self from within.
Female Narcissists!
Narcissists hide their true nature. The female narcissist is a MASTER at hiding her TRUE nature. She can come across as a great mother, wife, neighbor, friend, volunteer. She had a great “wild face.”
But often, only her husband and children (family) know the truth. The female narcissist is similar to her male counterpart. She likes love bombs and hasty intimacy. She says all her exes are crazy. There is cheating, lying, and erratic behavior. She engages in smear campaigning and uses flying monkeys.
Female narcissists are passive-aggressive and sneaky with their abusive tactics.
Some of her traits are: – Always being the VICTIM (of EVERYTHING)
Incredibly sensitive to criticism, she cannot handle or tolerate it, but on the other hand, she is hypercritical of others.
She has exaggerated and false empathy.
It’s empathy for oneself to get something in return.
Weathered with her image and reputation
She will do anything to hide bad behavior.
A narcissist is needy and demanding, seeking attention.
She uses shame and guilt.
With attention and affection, she tries to get what she wants. She is a master at this.
A toxic person will have some loyal and vicious “flying monkeys.”
She wants to portray herself as a good, ethical person. However, she will use her sexuality to manipulate others. She uses it to control them.
The narcissist believes she is unique and superior to others.
She’s jealous.
She can’t stand the success of others.
She will work behind the scenes to map out someone’s demise.
All because of envy.
Female narcissists are insidious.
They will throw people under the bus, betray those who trust her. They will tell tall tales and destroy your good name. A toxic person has no boundaries because they think they are above them.
They have a problem with certain behaviors and what that behavior might do to their “reputation” if exposed or discovered.
The NPD can get away with fooling many people because they can appear vulnerable or “shy.”
Experts in justifying bad behaviour.
Somehow, they are always in a position where they “had to” make a morally corrupt DECISION.
A lot of the internet bickering about mental health stigma would be cleared up. This would happen if people really knew what they were talking about.
One of my views is that discussing personality disorders like narcissism is “mental health stigma.” Mentioning psychopathy in this context is also considered stigmatizing. Additionally, words like “abnormal psychology” and using the “P” word are offensive.
First, how does this stigmatize a mental illness if personality disorders are not considered a mental illness?
Yes, there are levels of severity in PD. They all have the same 4 core disorders. These disorders will be problematic in their own right.
People have a right to educate themselves. They have a right to protect themselves from harm or further harm. So if that bothers you, just leave.
When recovering and healing from narcissistic abuse, you must prioritize your time and energy.
When the numbness goes away and your head clears up, a whole new set of emotions comes up. With clear thinking and perspective, you begin to see how toxic, dysfunctional, unfair, chaotic, and totally one-sided the relationship was.
While grieving, you don’t just feel sad.
You feel shocked, foggy in the head, pain, and exhaustion that are almost incapacitating.
Feel all the emotions. Let it all come. It will take months for the thoughts and feelings to wash over you. Yes, months. It might even take years, depending on how long you stayed.
To keep your head above water, you need to control your thoughts. This helps you avoid getting stuck. Make sure your thoughts do not control you.
Concentrating on what you can control will help you master your future. You will not be a victim of your circumstances. We have survived relationships with the most insidious form of psychopathy. We are survivors. The present is here and now, whether you like it or not. Find a way to make it work for you.
For those seeking closure from a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Forget it. They won’t give it to you. The narcissist will either be too mean to provide you with anything helpful. Or they don’t care about you. They won’t do anything for anyone else unless there’s a reward in it for them. And they’ll only blame you for everything.
Narcissists live in a misguided world where they are superior beings. They never do anything wrong, and everything is always someone else’s fault. You have to find closure within yourself.
Try to connect with your true self. Determine your values and your limits. And never settle for less than what you are willing to give.
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