I know this title may seem judgmental or even offend some people. “How on earth can you compare me to a narcissist – by putting me on the same coin?” Is there a relation between narcissist and co-dependent?
So much of the public and many experts and therapists believe that it is the differences between narcissists and their targets which bring them together.
Yes, yes and yes – on the surface that theory appears to be 100% accurate.
However, I believe “Takers gravitate to givers,” “opposites attract” are only a tiny part of the truth.
It is only looking at the surface.
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There is something much deeper going on as to why co-dependents and narcissists attract.
In this video, I’m going to explain why it’s not our DIFFERENCES but actually, our SIMILARITIES that bring us together.
By understanding this vital concept, you will be able to identify the parts of yourself that make you a target for narcissists and move another step closer to ending the cycle of abuse and dissatisfying relationships in your life.
What my intention is with videos such as this – is to help you get to the truth to heal your life.
This video is about deeply understanding the similarities co-dependents share with narcissists.
The similarities which put both parties on the same coin.
This truth is not about “blaming and shaming” – which only triggers our ego into more resentment which of course the ego loves (“Go on, go on feed me MORE pain!”), but instead in ways that open up our bodies, minds and hearts with big “Ah-ha” awareness.
Because it is those “Oh my goodness” moments which make all the difference.
If we were to imagine that the co-dependent/narcissistic relationship was the “light” and the “dark” side of a coin, we know there are differences; however, I want to grant you the understanding of what the currency really is because that understanding is vital.
It’s vital because it allows you to know what is necessary to never be half of that coin again.
But before I do, let’s look at the differences between the two sides.
The highest calling is healing and liberation from the inner wounds.
There is no more powerful dynamic to achieve that than in an intimate relationship.
If one partner does apply authentic self-responsibility and evolve and the other doesn’t – then the one who does never needs to experience a relationship like that again, and will certainly not remain in that relationship dynamic.
That relationship was the stepping stone necessary to go to the next level.
I hope you made it this far.
Hold your heart open enough to feel the truth.
I hope you are connecting to what you really need to do to get well and how incredible your life will be when you do.
You may need to read this article several times to really absorb it, and if so I urge you to do so.
Thank you for reading this article, and if you have any questions or comments, please leave them in the section below. I do my best to respond to all of them.
On December 19th and 20th Melanie Tonia Evans is hosting the You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse event.
This is a live on-line Premiere Global Healing workshop for anyone suffering abuse from a spouse, partner, family member, friend, boss, colleague or other individual.
This event is relevant for you, no matter your gender or age, how long ago you separated from this person, and even if they are still in your life.
Here’s a summary of what will be covered during the workshop:
- How to become crystal clear if the person you are dealing with IS abusive.
- The #1 factor that determines if they are capable of change.
- How to know the most common personality traits in YOU that make you a target for narcissists and how to stop attracting abusers in the future.
- The 6 reasons why MOST people don’t recover from abuse (this won’t be you after this workshop!)
- How to empower yourself to deal with a narcissist in difficult situations such as co-parenting, custody battles, divorce settlements and other legal/business deals.
- How to heal from trauma symptoms such as C-PTSD, anxiety, depression and fibromyalgia and live free of them once and for all.
This event not only aims to help you break free and heal from any abusive situation, but also teaches you how to create a new and empowered life that is no longer affected by toxic people.
If you have been through this type of relationship, I can highly recommend you take part in this all-day healing event. Let Melanie teach you how to shift from being a “victim of abuse” to becoming a “Thriver from abuse” in a way that is easy to understand and immediately applicable to your life.
I know Melanie’s work and what she will be sharing is THE most cutting-edge and impactful information on healing from toxic and abusive relationships.
It is Melanie’s deep understanding of the trauma inflicted by narcissists that fuels her passion to help as many people as possible to heal. And Melanie’s wisdom and healing processes have helped so many people recover their lives and move past mere surviving to real Thriving.
This is a rare opportunity for you to learn directly from a trusted colleague who is a renowned abuse recovery expert.
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PLUS so much more…
Johan and Annemie Persyn-Declercq
P.S. Melanie has told me that she also has some exciting bonuses for you as well! After purchasing your ticket you will get immediate access to the following:
The “50 Traits of a Narcissist Checklist” so you can find out whether or not you are dealing with a narcissist.
Plus an exclusive 35-minute video training called “The 6 Mistakes That People Make When Recovering From Abuse” which provides an excellent starting point to your healing journey.
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