BOOKS TO GROW BY
Expert advice on how parents can approach the exhilarating, frustrating, delightful and humbling work of raising kids.
Kids aren’t the only ones who can benefit from a summer reading assignment. As new parents soon find out, children don’t come with an instruction manual. In fact, more attention may have been paid to getting ready for the birth than what in the world to do with a squirming, helpless infant who will require a daunting minimum of 18 years of assistance.
Depression can’t be explained, but it must be reckoned with.
In her poem “There’s a certain Slant of light,” Emily Dickinson reflects upon the experience of depression and despair. This phenomenon oppresses, hurts, causes “internal difference,” leaving the soul without meaning. Worse yet, we humans find no instructors to explain this pervasive reality: “None may teach it—Any—’Tis the Seal Despair.”
The Powerful Effect of Love Bombing and Intermittent Reinforcement on Children of Narcissists.
Love bombing is a process of grooming in which a predator uses flattery, praise and the promise of a supreme alliance to fulfill their own agendas. By love bombing their victims, abusers are able to persuade their targets to fulfill their requests and desires.
Love bombing is not only a tool used by covert manipulators to exploit their victims, it is also used in cults to ensure loyalty to the cult leader. In fact, there is much overlap between the behavior of cults and the abuse cycle of an abuser and his or her victim.
It’s Time to Stop Calling Everyone a Narcissist.
“We learn to be ourselves through imitating others.”
Kristin Dombek is the award-winning author of The Selfishness of Others and advice columnist for literary magazine n+1. Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania, the scientific director of The Imagination Institute, and the author of Ungifted and Wired to Create.
The two recently sat down on The Psychology Podcast to discuss what true narcissism looks like, the difference between empathy and compassion, and how we all might be a little more selfish that we’d like to think.
Narcissism and the literary libido : rhetoric, text, and subjectivity / Marshall W. Alcorn, Jr.
Why Narcissists Are Bad For Your Health.
We have all come into contact with a narcissist at some point in our lives. It could be that awful boss who bullied you relentlessly. Or the relative who put you down at every opportunity. Or maybe it was that partner who turned from heaven sent lover into a vitriolic, abusive devil.
Trump Is the Symptom, Not the Disease.
Unless we overhaul our political systems from the ground up, we face a century of rule by puppets of the rich.
The United States is clearly in deep trouble. This is not just because a stupid and narcissistic old man somehow gained power. The real problem is that a stupid and narcissistic old country gave it to him.
TICKING TIME BOMB
Why ‘love bombing’ is the new relationship trend all singletons need to look out for.
It’s a controversial tactic that often starts off with a predator showering their victim with affection
Why Facebook makes you Sad and Zuckerberg Glad.
Exclusive: Carole Hornsby Haynes, Ph.D
Thousands of studies have reported that most humans thrive when they have positive relationships with other humans. However, these studies have been done with face-to-face social relationships.
Now an important study about online relationships has been reported in the Harvard Business Review, “Association of Facebook Use With Compromised Well-Being: A Longitudinal Study.” The study finds the use of Facebook is negatively associated with overall well-being, especially in mental health.
Manipulative people hook their victims with a tactic called ‘love bombing’ — here are the signs you’ve been a target.
You think you’ve met the love of your life?
Stop. Take a step back. Why do you think that?
If you have just met somebody who is saying that you are “soul mates” and declaring their undying love for you after a few weeks, you might have just become the victim of something called “love bombing.”
Jennifer Newman: How to deal with a narcissistic boss
Positive workplaces can encourage narcissistic managers to act appropriately, says workplace expert.
Believe it or not, egotistical managers can be a positive force at work.
Their narcissism can make them confident and able to make bold decisions — especially in ambiguous or uncertain situations, according to workplace psychologist Jennifer Newman.
The Forgotten: Children of Narcissistic Parents.
Paul reluctantly began therapy after a poor review at work. His office did a 360 approach which involved getting input from other team members, clients, and superiors prior to the formal evaluation.
The process revealed that Paul lacked effective communication skills, procrastinated unnecessarily, didn’t cooperate well in group settings, and seemed either anxious or angry on a regular basis.
11 signs you could be dating a narcissist.
Everyone has moment when they’re a little full of themselves. But if you notice your partner takes a little too much of an interest in their own needs more often than not, you may be dating a narcissist.
Like all personality types, narcissists come in many forms, but INSIDER talked to some experts about the typical traits of your friendly neighborhood narcissist.
Annemie Persyn Declercq.