Narcissistic abuse can feel like a nightmare. It is like being frozen in time and not knowing how to get free of the pain. This happens despite all the therapy you are trying as well as the research you’re doing on narcissists. Maybe the therapies had no impact on your somatic emotional body.
I want to help you understand why this is happening.
Your somatic emotional body (your feelings) has experienced big emotional impacts. You feel this inside you, literally as dense, heavy energy or anxiety, depression, and even panic. Maybe it feels like a dark black ink coursing through your veins.
These traumatic inner identity wounds are so drastic that your mind tries to reconcile them to get free of them.
Here is the problem, your mind can’t just “get closure” or “let them go”.
Many neuroscientists, such as Bruce Lipton and Joe Dispenza, hold interesting beliefs. They think that by 30 years of age, 90-95% of your life is on autopilot. They think that most of your actions and thoughts are automatic. How you are thinking is in regards to your inner identity composition – meaning “what is happening inside of you”.
Your brain is following your body. You need to heal your somatic emotional body.
This is why you can’t stop yourself from doing the things that keep hurting you. Such as breaking No Contact. Trying to fix the unfixable. Repeatedly forgiving unforgivable behavior and incessant thinking about what hurts.
Which is like shooting yourself 100 more times with the original bullet.
Of course, you feel like you are a failure. You feel that there is something wrong with you. You feel that you are never going to get well.
I used to feel like this too!
I promise you, none of this is true. It’s only been this way because you didn’t know how to heal your Inner Being first. You needed to bypass the brain and go directly into the subconscious. Doing the healing there was crucial.
If you were to ask yourself what is the main trauma or pain that is screaming at you right now. Is it …
The heartbreak and losses that you are suffering?
Wondering how you stayed and put up with the abuse for so long?
Is it the shame you feel for allowing this person to hurt you and possibly other people you care about?
Is it the hopelessness of feeling like you won’t be able to manage to recover and rebuild your life?
Can’t you stop loving and longing for this person, no matter how much they hurt you?
Perhaps it’s a combination of all these things.
You need to leave, stay away, and get over this person. Regardless, your mind constantly defaults back to the pain. This triggers you into a helpless fight or flee dynamic. It makes it nearly impossible for you to open up to positivity, solutions, or even hope.
Your vital first step is to address this body-brain connection. Otherwise, you will stay trapped in this cycle over and over again.
And trust me… You don’t want that!
Why do I know this? I lived it for many years. It took time. I recognized I needed to heal this dynamic at the subconscious level (where it was playing out). I needed to heal the trauma inside of me. I needed to heal how I “felt” to start thinking, being, and acting in ways that would serve me … and once I did …
My heartbreak, terror, and feelings of defectiveness, powerlessness, and hopelessness started to dissolve. Where those traumas once were – peace, hope, and solutions started to arise within me.
Then I was able to hold No Contact and stop going back to the abuse. Friends and associates started to recognize the truth of what had happened. They began supporting me. I was finally able to start rebuilding myself again.
Everything started to change for the better because I was getting better.
You may think that is a crazy claim until you start working with the growth tasks yourself!
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No one should feel the trauma and shame of narcissistic abuse. You feel confused, distraught and powerless. Deep down, you know this person is wrong for you. You know that they’re intentionally harming you. However, you feel like you can’t stop obsessing about them. You may feel astounded that you can’t leave them … and stay away.
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Reflecting on Your Healing Journey
As you read through the content on somatic emotional body healing for narcissistic abuse recovery, consider the following questions to engage with the text:
- How have you experienced the impact of narcissistic abuse on your somatic emotional body?
- Which specific emotions and sensations resonate with you as dense, heavy energy in your body?
- Have you found yourself struggling to break free from the pain despite therapy and research on narcissistic abuse?
- What are the main traumatic experiences or pains that speak to you from the list provided? How have they affected you?
- Can you relate to the concept of your mind constantly defaulting back to the pain? This makes it challenging to embrace positivity and hope.
- In what ways does your body-brain connection contribute to feeling trapped? How does it perpetuate a cycle of pain and hurt?
- How do you envision addressing your body-brain connection to facilitate your healing journey?
Feel free to take your time to contemplate these questions as part of your self-reflection and healing process.
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