Narcissistic abuse can feel like a nightmare, being frozen in time and not knowing how to get free of the pain, despite all the therapy you are trying as well as the research you’re doing on narcissists. Maybe the therapies had no impact on your somatic emotional body.
I want to help you understand why this is happening.
Your somatic emotional body (your feelings) has experienced big emotional impacts. You feel this inside you, literally as dense, heavy energy or anxiety, depression, and even panic. Maybe it feels like a dark black ink coursing through your veins.
These traumatic inner identity wounds are so drastic that your mind tries to reconcile them to get free of them.
Here is the problem, your mind can’t just “get closure” or “let them go”.
Many neuroscientists, such as Bruce Lipton and Joe Dispenza, believe that by 30 years of age 90-95% of your life is on autopilot. How you are thinking is in regards to your inner identity composition – meaning “what is happening inside of you”.
Your brain is following your body. You need to heal your somatic emotional body.
This is why you can’t stop yourself from doing the things that keep hurting you. Such as breaking No Contact. Trying to fix the unfixable. Repeatedly forgiving unforgivable behavior and incessant thinking about what hurts.
Which is like shooting yourself 100 more times with the original bullet.
Of course, you feel like you are a failure, that there is something wrong with you, and that you are never going to get well.
I used to feel like this too!
I promise you, none of this is true. It’s only been this way because you didn’t know how to heal your Inner Being first – bypassing the brain and going directly into the subconscious and doing the healing there.
If you were to ask yourself what is the main trauma or pain that is screaming at you right now. Is it …
The heartbreak and losses that you are suffering?
Wondering how you stayed and put up with the abuse for so long?
Is it the shame you feel for allowing this person to hurt you and possibly other people you care about?
Is it the hopelessness of feeling like you won’t be able to manage to recover and rebuild your life?
Can’t you stop loving and longing for this person, no matter how much they hurt you?
Perhaps it’s a combination of all these things.
Regardless of trying to “get it through your head” that you need to leave, stay away and get over this person, your mind is constantly defaulting back to the pain, which triggers you into a helpless fight or flees dynamic, making it nearly impossible for you to open up to positivity, solutions or even hope.
That’s why your vital first step is to address this body-brain connection otherwise you will stay trapped in this cycle over and over again.
And trust me… You don’t want that!
Why do I know this? Because I lived it for many years before I recognized I needed to heal this dynamic at the subconscious level (where it was playing out). I needed to heal the trauma inside of me, and how I “felt” to start thinking, being, and acting in ways that would serve me …
and once I did …
My heartbreak, terror, and feelings of defectiveness, powerlessness, and hopelessness started to dissolve. Where those traumas once were – peace, hope, and solutions started to arise within me.
Then I was able to hold No Contact and stop going back to the abuse.
Friends and associates started to recognize the truth of what had happened and began supporting me, and I was finally able to start rebuilding myself again.
Everything started to change for the better because I was getting better.
You can get this powerful process started with only 30 minutes of free time, by listening and following the steps in Module 1 of NARP (narcissistic abuse recovery program) – Release The Immediate Pain And Feelings of Loss.
We see, like day and night, the difference in our Community members between those who commit to the process of healing their subconscious with NARP and those who stick to the contemporary route.
In my opinion, the healing progress of people who are using NARP is more than 100x of those who don’t!
You may think that is a crazy claim until you start working with Quanta Freedom Healing yourself!
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