Feelings of stress, anxiety and depression, and big emotional triggers can be brought on by many things.
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Big emotional triggers can be brought on by such as the narcissist abusing you or gaslighting you.
The narcissist can smear you, replace you with new supply, threat you, stonewall or abandon you.
The narcissist can walk away and NOT contacting you.
Also, it’s likely that you see or remember things that bring up painful feelings for you. When this happens, it can feel like you have ice running through your veins, and you are plunged into overwhelming feelings of powerlessness and helplessness – and even panic attacks.
This situation is why, today, I wanted to help you with a method that can be so valuable to you at these times.
I know that if you adopt it that it will start to grant you clarity and power and you will start feeling that you’ve got your soul back.
But, before I tell you about this method, I want to quickly mention that there are only a few days left before we will be in the Masterclass together. So register now!
Okay, so on to those times when you feel triggered, this situation is the time when you are being abused, gaslighted or belittled.
You realise your views, feelings and rights are unimportant.
No matter how hard you try to get sanity and decency, things spiral out of control even more.
When you are cruelly dismissed, abandoned or replaced.
You are brutally smeared and have other people turn against you.
When, you are threatened with the loss or the damage of who and what you love.
Or when you are hit with the terrible memories or feelings of any of the above.
I know how AWFUL this is – I promise you. I also know it feels like you are at the mercy of these feelings and that there is no way to control them.
Yet, that isn’t true – there is a quick and powerful workaround that you will discover and can start to grant you relief and calm, even in the most challenging of times.
Let me walk you through it.
Imagine this, the emotional trigger hits.
What would you usually do?
You would probably do what we were all taught to do, start to THINK about it. Yet this doesn’t grant you relief.
Because it generally turns into “stinking thinking”.
Because always, your brain follows your body.
You can only think WITHIN the range of the emotional trigger that has gone off.
So what can you do instead?
Don’t contract your body. Make sure you breathe deeply, then take your awareness inside of you, where you are feeling the feeling in your body and say to yourself, “I bless and accept this feeling”.
Does this mean you are giving in to this feeling and you will somehow validate it and make it worse?
What is happening is that you have connected to that feeling.
You validated that feeling lovingly.
Even you can allow that triggered part of you to feel supported and “heard” and “met” which will enable it to start settling down.
This situation of giving support to that triggered part with big emotional triggers doesn’t mean “going into the story”.
Remember that puts you back into the “stinking thinking”. Instead, it means just breathing love and acceptance into this part of your body that is somatically triggered, and staying open (not clenched tight) whilst breathing deeply, smoothly and slowly.
Now you are self-partnered (supporting yourself) rather than disconnecting from what is going on inside of you.
The old tactic of “thinking” has previously caused your Inner Being to feel ignored.
That triggered part of you feels invalidated and DEEPLY abandoned when you use the old tactic of “tinking”. The big emotional triggers will get louder and louder to try to get you to turn inwards and “accept” it (by being present with it).
Think of your Inner Being as hurt and terrified child who needs your presence and love.
Okay, so now please try this out for yourself.
Think about something that hurts right now.
Now take your attention into your body. You will feel the bi emotional triggers somatically. Physically there will be a dense, heavy or funky feeling.
Make sure your body is relaxed (not tense) and breathe deeply, and with your attention connected with this feeling in your body, say to that part of you, “I bless and accept this feeling”.
Take note of how that feels in your body.
Now sit and breathe love and presence into that part of yourself without thought.
I want you to start to understand that you being at One with you and partnering with yourself emotionally with love and energy is always an essential step.
You can’t think your way out of emotional trauma.
It doesn’t work. But when you have dealt effectively with the emotional pain inside of you, THEN you can have access to higher thoughts of power, truth and solution.
Which is precisely what we are going to help you connect to in our time together.
I want you to know this is only the beginning.
While we are together in the Masterclass, Melanie is going to do everything in her power to help you change your life, from one of the abuse patterns, into the freedom, love and control of your best experience.
As well as a private Facebook group so you can connect with me, my team and the other Thrive members as we go on this 10-week journey toward incredible healing and Thriving together!
Click here to learn all about Thrive and find out how you can register
We have been working soooooooo hard (as we love to do for you!) over the last few months putting all of this together and we’re so incredibly excited to share Thrive with you.
We have packed an enormous amount of value in this program and put it together in a way that will make this 10-week experience unbelievable…
You will shift the “unshiftable” …
Release the “unforgivable”, “unliveable” and “unsustainable”.
And leave your breakdowns behind in the dust to access your new and true REAL YOU breakthroughs!
I know you won’t recognise yourself once you’ve completed the Thrive Membership Program.
Whether you are currently at 2 out of 10, 6 out of 10 or even 9 out of 10 in achieving your Thriver Status in your healing journey, me and my wonderful team will support you, encourage and inspire you, and keep you on track to surge ahead as you progress through the workshops and healing exercises in this program.
I am a really strong believer in the power of group energy healing, and if you have participated in a workshop with me when we have hundreds of people all clearing out our dense trauma at the same time, you will know that the power and relief felt during these experiences is truly indescribable.
So what can you expect to get out of Thrive?
We designed the Thrive Membership Program to focus on the 6 key areas that we see universally result in successful recoveries.
Meaning when you learn how to do these things you become a Thriver!
So what are they?
#1 Freedom From Trauma: Release the residual trauma from the narcissistic relationship, including missing the narcissist or anything that is keeping you stuck and not moving forward.
#2 Healing Abuse Symptoms: Overcome abuse symptoms such as PTSD, fibromyalgia, agoraphobia, depression, etc. with targeted healing directly on your subconscious programs.
# 3 Become Narcissist Proof: Achieve a state where narcissists are no longer your reality – meaning you are repelled and impervious to them rather than susceptible to them.
#4 Attract Supporting & Loving Souls: Develop your relationship code so that you become a magnet for supportive, conscious and caring people – a far cry from narcissists!
#5 Become A Boundary Boss: Learn how to make boundary setting an integral part of your life – people will be asking you for tips on boundary setting!
#6 Smashing Self-Sabotage: Establish your Thriver Life and learn how to let go of unhealthy habits like junk food, smoking, drinking, procrastination and other self-avoiding and self-sabotaging habits or patterns much more easily.
Can you feel the evolution you will experience over 10-weeks if you decide to join Thrive?
I hope you feel it, as much as I know that it’s going to be amazing. 🙂
Click here to register my spot for Thrive.
The Thrive Membership Program kicks off on May 1st and finishes on June 10th. In case you miss anything you will receive all your recordings, exercises, and workshop material in your member’s area, so it’s ok if you can’t make every single workshop.
We are capping the group numbers to ensure the group size is right for this format. So please, check out Thrive, and if you feel drawn to be a part of this program sign up soon to avoid missing out.
I can’t wait to join you in these sessions! It’s my favourite thing to do. 😁