Narcissistic parent uses also his children.

To get the attention he uses especially those who are closest to him, as his partner, but also his children. The children of narcissistic parents are, like all other people, just objects to him that he used only for his own gain.

Living with a narcissistic parent is heavy, it has a profound impact on the bystanders.

As a junkie needs heroin, the narcissistic parent is always looking for attention and power. This goal is brittle self-maintenance and is vital for the narcissist.

To get the attention he uses especially those who are closest to him, as his partner, but also his children. The children of narcissistic parents are, like all other people, just objects to him that he used only for his gain.

What a Narcissistic father can’t.

As a parent, it is usually about giving yourself, to promote the growth and development of your child. But what happens if this is not the case? The narcissist does not meet the needs of his children. He introduces himself in the first place. He demands a lot of attention and reassurance, even to very young children.

Although he may ‘seem’ very responsible and materially, he could spoil the children, the narcissist is a lousy narcissistic parent. That is not so difficult to understand if you consider yourself a parent who is primarily concerned with your own needs.

He takes no idea what is really going on in the inner child.

A child who grows up with a narcissistic parent, not getting what is needed for healthy brain and emotional development.

The influence of a narcissistic parent.

Depending on the age of the children seem to be the best long well, especially when they are still small. Later, the narcissist will use his/her kids to complete his own self-image. Everything that the child is his introspection.

If the child misbehaves, the narcissist will reject it. Instead of giving appropriate guidance and boundaries, the child will then deal with emotional rejection and overt or covert shame.

In this way the narcissist brings shame on the child. The child feels that something did not get approval.

Only by the ambiguity of the narcissist, the child knows not what it is exactly, that’s not okay. The child feels therefore rejected as a whole person, which is a very insecure child.

‘Idol’ or ‘scapegoat.’

If the child is doing well and fits into the ‘narcissistic -imago,’ it exists primarily to fulfill the dreams and expectations of the narcissist. The child has no right to exist, it depends on the performance.

If the narcissistic parent thinks his child gives a vital source of ego gratification for him because of his personality, attractiveness, intellect, he will meet this child.

He sees the child as an extension of themselves and idolizes the child.

Often one child is the ‘idol’ (the little narcissist) and the other the “scapegoat” of the narcissist. (Often the youngest / weakest / girl)

Whom he can break the easiest, he will face most abuses. This is why the narcissist always neglected his children, he will simply not emotionally for them in any way.

Narcissistic parents abuse.

If a parent doesn’t see how her/his kids are abused, that maybe not all…

He may also yell at them, being unreasonably angry about nothing, refusing to take the children to talk, except to criticize them, refusing to play with them, never giving praise or compliment them, teasing them, taunting and them scold at them.

Even within a family, there can be much different. It does not do much for the development of the child how the narcissist treats the child. Whether children are slighted or are an extension of the narcissist, in both cases, it is a child behind a healthy development of self-esteem. Even though the influence of a sane, loving parent.

I hope that you have many benefits from this article and that you take action to friend me on Facebook because we can chat there if you have more questions, or just want someone to listen to.

So besides that, you’re a super parent, you also do nice things for yourself. Because you earn it!

Just because you’re a parent!

PS: Do you find this article interesting, instructive, controversial, or have you ever smiled reading this article of a recognition?  Let me know in the comments below.

On December 19th and 20thMelanie Tonia Evans is hosting the You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse event.

This is a live on-line Premiere Global Healing workshop for anyone suffering abuse from a spouse, partner, family member, friend, boss, colleague or other individual.

This event is relevant for you, no matter your gender or age, how long ago you separated from this person, and even if they are still in your life.

Here’s a summary of what will be covered during the workshop:

  • How to become crystal clear if the person you are dealing with IS abusive.
  • The #1 factor that determines if they are capable of change.
  • How to know the most common personality traits in YOU that make you a target for narcissists and how to stop attracting abusers in the future.
  • The 6 reasons why MOST people don’t recover from abuse (this won’t be you after this workshop!)
  • How to empower yourself to deal with a narcissist in difficult situations such as co-parenting, custody battles, divorce settlements and other legal/business deals.
  • How to heal from trauma symptoms such as C-PTSD, anxiety, depression and fibromyalgia and live free of them once and for all.

This event not only aims to help you break free and heal from any abusive situation, but also teaches you how to create a new and empowered life that is no longer affected by toxic people.

If you have been through this type of relationship, I can highly recommend you take part in this all-day healing event. Let Melanie teach you how to shift from being a “victim of abuse” to becoming a “Thriver from abuse” in a way that is easy to understand and immediately applicable to your life. 

I know Melanie’s work and what she will be sharing is THE most cutting-edge and impactful information on healing from toxic and abusive relationships. 

It is Melanie’s deep understanding of the trauma inflicted by narcissists that fuels her passion to help as many people as possible to heal. And Melanie’s wisdom and healing processes have helped so many people recover their lives and move past mere surviving to real Thriving. 

This is a rare opportunity for you to learn directly from a trusted colleague who is a renowned abuse recovery expert. 

Click here secure your ticket to this breakthrough abuse recovery event. 

PLUS so much more…

Johan and Annemie Persyn-Declercq

P.S. Melanie has told me that she also has some exciting bonuses for you as well! After purchasing your ticket you will get immediate access to the following:

The “50 Traits of a Narcissist Checklist” so you can find out whether or not you are dealing with a narcissist. 

Plus an exclusive 35-minute video training called “The 6 Mistakes That People Make When Recovering From Abuse” which provides an excellent starting point to your healing journey. 

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