When you ask micro-comments you are building our self-image.

How can you avoid the trigger of fight or flight mechanism with yourself and with others?

A lot of times we ask to think big, but when it isn’t a match with our self-image, we run away.

When you are a person who has not given a follow-up to his/her promises in the past, you have a low self-image.


To ask yourself little questions where anyone can say YES and easy to follow-up.

When you ask little questions, the psychology of small steps, over and over, you can make significant changes in your/your prospects life.


“How long have you been in that relationship ?”

But when before ‘asking how much money they you made ’ start the trigger, and it slows down or even can stop rational and creative thinking.

When you ask: “Can I look to the Facebook profile of your ex to see what specifics he had because I want to know you better?  I still need a lot of rapport and trust.


The Fight and Flight response is a survival mechanism that’s working unconscious and very essential in the Amygdala part of our brain.

Not only are you going around the trigger with small questions, but you also rise the self-image, the prospect starts to feel good, what builds trust, your client slows down his fear and start to discover he/she can be comfortable what’s growing confidence.


When you ask to watch a video of you, it can make you more trustworthy because they see you, they hear you; you can move the prospect and slow down the fear and put up the curiosity.

CLICK THE BUTTON TO TAKE THE QUIZ is an example of asking micro-commitments.

That’s why asking questions is useful.

Even a question like “Which of the following best describes you or how long was you with the narcissist” could be helping in micro-commitments and customization.

WHICH OF THE FOLLOWING BEST DESCRIBES YOU? Is asking micro-commitments by asking a question.

Having the leads to perform smaller steps first helps them to trust you if you use that information.

When you ask to do such a quiz, you can pre-select people to do different actions.

But don’t forget there has to be rapport and responsiveness before you go to the next step.

You don’t let them go to a next step when they haven’t finish the actual action.

You ask a question or to do an action and the prospect doesn’t react, and you can use that information to ask him another small commitment.

Asking micro-commitments like daily five conversations to build your network.

Of course, the daily five conversations with our connections are helping us to become a better communicator. Doing the talks yourself is a good habit of building up your self-image on being a good friend and not being a people pleaser.

With your own conversations, you can prove you are a servant leader.

It all starts to make sense, training, methods, content and action steps.

I’m looking forward to learning more about a coaching vision and practices with you.

You can connect with me on Facebook as long as you’re not afraid of becoming more of YOURSELF.

Let me know in the comments which trust-building steps you need before you take a decision to give your email?

This program is your time to grow by asking micro-commitments to build your self-image.

Here’s what you need to do next and this is an example of ask micro-commitments.

Go to my Facebook profile and send me A PRIVATE MESSAGE where you tell me you want more info.

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On December 19th and 20thMelanie Tonia Evans is hosting the You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse event.

This is a live on-line Premiere Global Healing workshop for anyone suffering abuse from a spouse, partner, family member, friend, boss, colleague or other individual.

This event is relevant for you, no matter your gender or age, how long ago you separated from this person, and even if they are still in your life.

Here’s a summary of what will be covered during the workshop:

  • How to become crystal clear if the person you are dealing with IS abusive.
  • The #1 factor that determines if they are capable of change.
  • How to know the most common personality traits in YOU that make you a target for narcissists and how to stop attracting abusers in the future.
  • The 6 reasons why MOST people don’t recover from abuse (this won’t be you after this workshop!)
  • How to empower yourself to deal with a narcissist in difficult situations such as co-parenting, custody battles, divorce settlements and other legal/business deals.
  • How to heal from trauma symptoms such as C-PTSD, anxiety, depression and fibromyalgia and live free of them once and for all.

This event not only aims to help you break free and heal from any abusive situation, but also teaches you how to create a new and empowered life that is no longer affected by toxic people.

If you have been through this type of relationship, I can highly recommend you take part in this all-day healing event. Let Melanie teach you how to shift from being a “victim of abuse” to becoming a “Thriver from abuse” in a way that is easy to understand and immediately applicable to your life. 

I know Melanie’s work and what she will be sharing is THE most cutting-edge and impactful information on healing from toxic and abusive relationships. 

It is Melanie’s deep understanding of the trauma inflicted by narcissists that fuels her passion to help as many people as possible to heal. And Melanie’s wisdom and healing processes have helped so many people recover their lives and move past mere surviving to real Thriving. 

This is a rare opportunity for you to learn directly from a trusted colleague who is a renowned abuse recovery expert. 

Click here secure your ticket to this breakthrough abuse recovery event. 

PLUS so much more…

Johan and Annemie Persyn-Declercq

P.S. Melanie has told me that she also has some exciting bonuses for you as well! After purchasing your ticket you will get immediate access to the following:

The “50 Traits of a Narcissist Checklist” so you can find out whether or not you are dealing with a narcissist. 

Plus an exclusive 35-minute video training called “The 6 Mistakes That People Make When Recovering From Abuse” which provides an excellent starting point to your healing journey. 

Click here to reserve your ticket and to receive all the special bonuses.


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