You are trapped in an unhealthy marriage or relationship, and you want to break free.
If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship and lack any financial resources for professional help, read from the Internet and from your local library as much as you can about the dynamics of abusive relationships.
And in your moment of emergency, reach out to your local community charity agencies that support battered women.
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All of my knowledge about the dynamics of domestic abuse and healing abuse doesn’t come from the hundreds of books I have read or from the people I have helped. It also comes from the fact that I, too, lived the nightmare of domestic violence.
Safety planning for abused women.
Whether or not you’re ready to leave your abuser, there are steps you can take to protect yourself. These safety tips may might the difference between being severely injured or killed and escaping with your life.
Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts. Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.
Know your abuser’s red flags. Stay alert for signs and clues that your abuser is getting upset and may explode in anger or violence. Come up with several plausible reasons you can use to leave the house (both during the day and at night) if you sense trouble brewing.
Come up with a code word. Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbours, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and they should call the police.
Make an escape plan.
Be ready to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get to it quickly. Have emergency cash, clothing, and essential phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).
Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan, so you know correctly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, make sure they practice the escape plan also.