Are you interested in the connection between physical well-being, nutrition and emotional well-being?
This is an aspect of mental health that is often overlooked. It is essential to share the current research. Furthermore, it is necessary to cite sources carefully. This helps remove the barrier between academic language and consumer understanding.
For that, we have the pages that you will find with the search function for research and research.
Messages about our own growth are available in my story category. You can also locate them using the search function.
We certainly don’t want to imagine anyone being superior to anyone else.
One is not exceptional because this person has a degree or more experience etc. No matter what occasions or studies you have had, you are never superior to another. That also applies to your sexuality, country of origin, intellect, income, status, etc.
For further reading on the links between physical and emotional well-being, explore vitamin D and mental well-being, reconnecting with the body after trauma and a critical appraisal of holistic mental health.
We remain “social beings” whether we like it or not!
Our posts are often about personal responsibility, personal development, and self-empowerment. However, that does not mean you should take full responsibility for all aspects of your well-being.
If we often speak out for self-healing, this does not mean that therapy is not appropriate. It would be wrong for you. On the contrary, a good therapist will create a safe environment quickly. This is more effective than doing it yourself for some situations and people.
Often it is also not possible to find a safe environment in your home. Sometimes a prayer room in the area is a safe space where you can relax.
Triggers come from everywhere.
We are social beings living in a community. Social beings are influenced by other people, messages, programs and policies in all areas. Sometimes a person or a message can trigger a situation in you that you are not aware of.
As children, we are entirely dependent on our caregivers. The extent to which the past plays a role in dealing with the present is significant.
Trauma often occurs in unhealthy relationships, and it is within safe relationships that we can repair it.
That is why we also offer VKoN as a safe environment for self-healers.
We can undoubtedly heal aspects of ourselves on our own. Yet, healing roots are more often embedded in relationships. Connectivity with others is crucial. As social beings, we need support from others, or we are victims of systemic problems.
Affirmations that say, “I create my own life experience,” can be empowering. Similarly, statements like “the stories I create in my mind create suffering” can also empower. They can benefit someone who has had a relatively safe and stable life.
Usually, this is an upbringing with privileges, space, support and resources to heal. Those affirmations are unlikely to help someone with an unsafe life.
Essentially, this is supportive for a person who has experienced typical childhood wounds. Childhood wounds are an expected part of human social and emotional development.
The traumatic emotional development of mental health!
Yet, such a mantra can instil further shame on someone who has been traumatized. It can also affect those who are part of an oppressed group. It seems as though they have “caused their own suffering.” They might also feel responsible for that trauma while subject to group oppression.
I see this tactical approach as cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) techniques without a secure and well-developed therapist-client bond.
That is why we ask some questions when we are admitted to our private group. If this is not accepted, you will, in any case, not be selected.
Not a Buddhist ideal!
It can also be compared to adopting ideals of Buddhist equanimity. Corresponds that shame to demanding conscious self-awareness without the community-oriented wisdom of loving-kindness and interconnectedness to balance those ideas.
That’s why I also bring awareness to the scapegoat mechanism and the kind of spirituality we’ve been taught. That is why I refer to our sources of inspiration in the menu.
The selected ideas and approaches should not be seen in isolation from their larger therapeutic or spiritual contexts. They contain a relational component that is responsible for their effectiveness.
Self-healing tips should not lead to the accusation of victims.
Accusations create unsafe conditions for the most vulnerable among us. Doesn’t they isolate those people even more? They have a stigmatizing effect. Trauma is a subjective experience. What disturbs me is that the term ‘trauma’ should not be generalized to refer to ‘child wounds’.
It is perfectly possible to live in the past thanks to a trauma experienced as an adult. Trauma can include childhood, but not all childhood injury is considered traumatic for all individuals. It is essential to know what trauma really is in clinical psychology. Social discrimination can cause trauma’s from generation to generation.
This also means that not all tips are universally applicable.
And it certainly doesn’t mean that all tips apply to you. In practice, you can only deal with transformation healthily if you take small, baby steps. You must do an eco-check. You wonder if you feel good and safe with that step. If not, make it even smaller. That’s why it is so important to see the mental health psychology nuances in every situation, group, or individual.
If a step is too big, that step does harm. If you deny your feeling with it, it’s harmful. In short, not all uses of the tips lead to feeling better. That is why we have also placed a disclaimer to remind you of this.
Let’s say you buy a Ferrari for an 18-year-old who has no driving experience yet. That person just got his driver’s license. Then the risk of an accident is very high. It does not mean that the Ferrari itself causes an accident. It is probably even the safest car for someone with a slowly built up driving experience with Ferrari cars.
This is, therefore, our absolute priority: your safety. We are constantly reminding you that “taking baby steps” is a must for your health.
In taking baby steps, you don’t take risks. Furthermore, you can experience the mental health psychology nuances in every unique situation.
Consistency and regularity are more critical than the time you put into it. You also don’t have linear progress. Progression after trauma is like a sinusoidal with an increasing Y value. The curve goes up if there is enough rest between the effort you make to work on your recovery. To measure your progression, you have to make mental health psychology nuances.
Therefore, it is highly recommended that you stop using a tip or technique if it does not work. If there is no result after consistent application in baby steps, discontinue its use.
You can look further into what might work.
Perhaps it turns out that self-healing is not for you. You need to make mental health psychology nuances for every unique person and situation. Still, the health value of walking, meditation and creativity is widely accepted. You certainly don’t have to stop, but not if your doctor would advise against it.
You should not start with walking 10 km if you have never walked 5 km. But what I mainly want to say is that it is important to build up gradually. Furthermore, you should not meditate for 30 minutes if you have never meditated for 10 minutes. That is why it is so important to keep a diary to learn to recognize both positive and negative patterns.
As a remedial educationalist, I must do no harm.
I have to educate others in my community about their choices and mental health psychology nuances. It is ethical to uphold the values that initially drew me to this career. Including here, I also mean my integrity as a human being.
Many of the ideas I discuss are related to personal experiences and beliefs. Not all opinions are based on scientific research.
If you simply can’t heal yourself, and don’t get any benefit from what we offer you here, there is no problem with you.
Yet much of the content is powerful at a specific point in your healing journey. However, this is unfortunately not the case for a large population. But all the little ones can help as long as more money is not made available for mental health care. An increase in trauma can be expected.
Climate change will also cause further deterioration of mental health. Floods and forest fires bring severe consequences. The resulting poverty, war, and immigration mean more people experience more trauma.
We are social beings. Yet, the effectiveness of self-healing is minimal, but also of “therapy” if the context is entirely negative. We must make mental health psychology nuances in every situation.
Keeping a “future” “self” journal will undoubtedly help both self-healers and those in therapy to help them become more self-reflective. It also makes you less reactive and more curious about your own internal experiences.
Books on wellbeing and supportive self-care
The discussion in this page leaves room for personal experiences, relationships and the wider context of wellbeing. These books offer additional perspectives on trauma, stress and a kinder relationship with yourself. The links to bol.com are affiliate links.
For the connections between experiences, body and stress responses: ** The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk explores trauma and different approaches to recovery.
For reflection on stress and expectations: ** Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski discusses exhaustion and the pressures that shape wellbeing.
For a less critical relationship with yourself: ** Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff explores kindness toward yourself when experiences and feelings are difficult.
Looking for a next step that fits your needs? Explore Start here at narcisme.blog: guides to recovery, self-awareness and connection (in Dutch) and choose a guide at your own pace.
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Annemie en Johan Persyn-Declercq (auteurs)
update : 09102026
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