You need to understand that narcissists can only attack people if they have gaps in their self- esteem and a diminished sense of self. So, what I’ve suggested for you is all about you standing in a healthy sense of self that the narcissist can’t argue with. Yet, of course, it is a lot easier said than done, and I do have some disclaimers with this. Thriver recovery is in my experience the best way possible to make your recovery a lot more easy.
Firstly, you may need to do a lot of inner work to be able to hold this position, as many of us had to do because we were so affected and triggered, we couldn’t just decide to do those statements. We had to clean up a lot of the triggers inside to be able to do it.
Another disclaimer, sometimes no response may be the best response. Just entirely ignore the behavior. Don’t feed the bear because it’s not even worth your response.
Maybe just think these empowering thoughts to yourself instead. They’re going to really help you be solid on the inside. Ideally, of course, you want your life to be filling up with non-narcissistic people who can reflect your true self-worth and the development that you’re now committed to by working on your Thriver recovery after narcissistic abuse.
A fully blown, ongoing relationship with a narcissist, even if you’ve got these little tips in your toolkit, could be really exhausting, and it’s not in your best interest long-term to be going through that. Whereas separating, getting away and healing is definitely going to be your most optimal option, so you don’t have to put up with that rubbish at all.
Hopefully, these skills are only temporarily needed, or they’re going to come in handy with narcissistic people who you could bump into at a family gathering, as an example.
I really hope that this has helped you today.
Before I sign off, I’d love to encourage you again to check out Thrive, which is Melanie’s powerful 10-week healing Boot camp. It’s coming up very soon!
It takes you on a personal interactive healing journey with me to take your power back, lay boundaries and get out of the clutches of narcissists and narcissistic abuse into a sane, healthy, wholesome life that works and thrives.
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I hope today has been really helpful. As always, I look forward to your comments and your questions.
Johan and Annemie Persyn Declercq